A Note to NICU Parents: Believe

There likely never would have been a Twin Miracles Editorial without the fact that my wife and I are NICU parents – our twin daughters were born at 23 weeks, 5 days, and spent 4-1/2 and 5 months, respectively, in two different NICUs as their needs changed.

If you are a parent with a child currently in the NICU, I know how you may be feeling from time to time: scared, powerless, like you failed your children, and worst of all, detached from them, if they are in a position of fragility where you aren’t able to touch them much, or hold them at all.

Nothing can prepare you for the experience of having your child or children in the NICU for a long time. Nothing can still the ache of leaving them there when it’s time for you to go home and do things like eating, showering, or going to work, that suddenly seem very unimportant.

The very best advice I can give you is to do whatever you want to in regards to yourself and your child. If you want to sing them Christmas carols because it seems to keep their oxygen levels high, then belt out “Jingle Bells’ for as long as your voice will hold out.

If you want to ask the same question about how the incubator works day after day to every doctor and nurse you see, ask away, that’s your child in there.

Advocate for your child’s needs, learn as much as you can about the process, and most of all believe in the day when they will come home with you, because that day is coming, and the wonderful feeling it will fill you with will be like nothing you’ve ever experienced before.

My Twin Miracles turned three years old on January 26, 2015. They are intelligent, beautiful, funny, and loving girls who know exactly how amazing their journey was  because we let them know each and every day.


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